Feeling aligned

I am feeling really good, inspired and energised lately, so the following question came to my mind:

Is this what it feels like to feel aligned?

So, I observed my thoughts and feelings more intensively over the last weeks. Sitting here right now writing this, I realise ‘Yes, that’s it, this is what feeling aligned means to me.’ These last two words, however, are critical, as you will experience a feeling of alignment differently than me. Nevertheless, I want to share my perspective on this feeling, as I’ve been able to experience it in such a positive and life-changing way.

I noticed that thoughts are simply the children of my emotions, meaning I’m in a positive mood and emotion, so my thoughts tend to be more positive. However, it also works the other way round, being in a negative mood means I’ve been thinking more negative thoughts. Now here’s the problem of this vicious circle. Let’s turn it around. If I have negative thoughts, a negative emotion is very likely to follow, and again it also works for my positive thoughts inducing positive emotions. So, here’s what I’m saying:

Be aware of your thoughts. They are the children of your emotions.

I happily noticed that I hold the power to shift this happening, that I can decide to think positively, that I can do mind and body work to allow this shift to happen. And I made it happen and I still do every day. Over the last years, I observed my thoughts, I observed my feelings, I questioned them, I tracked them back, I simply allowed myself to truly feel myself without avoiding, without fearing, without ignoring.

You hold the power to make this shift happen.

I understand more and more, how important it is to give things time. Because time is a good revealer of what’s really true.

Time is a good revealer of what’s really true.

What I mean is, if something bugs me, if someone makes a comment that triggers me, if I feel angry, sad or confused, I don’t instantly react anymore (there are exceptions of course, I’m just a human being). I give my best to let this feeling run through me and to give it time to rest. When this feeling really settles somewhere within me, I can still react, but if it doesn’t settle, then why react, right? Because my reaction would have required my energy and the more I think about it, the more stupid it is to instantly react to things.

Be aware of your energy.

Another thought that sticks around with me is that I truly believe that things happen for a reason. So, if something unpleasant happens in my life, I really try my best these days to remind myself that there must be a good reason for this, that this is a sign of the universe that something even better is just waiting for me around the corner. So, I decided to stop feeding these fires, that drain me, that I cannot change anyways, and to rather focus on the things that I can change and that I can feed with love instead.

Stop feeding the fire. Feed love instead.

And yes, probably the most important topic for most of us, myself included, is letting go. I  let go of being right; rather I remind myself that my reality is not the same as someone else’s, so the term ‘being right’ doesn’t appear reasonable anymore. It is always a matter of perspective. That’s it. Don’t hold on to thoughts, emotions, things, people, opinions; they change, they evolve, they flow, they develop, but they never stand still, so I decided to let go of being right and instead to bring my attention to what comes afterwards. Also, and I know it’s ironic, but most of the time when I cannot let go, it is definitely time to let go. Maybe you can resonate.

Let go of being right.

The topic of letting go brings me to my beloved topic ‘Alignment’. Because I perceived that if it’s aligned with me, whatever it is, a job, money, a partner, a guy, a friend, it will stay. It will f***-ing stay. It’s all about trust. When I trust life, when I trust the universe, when I understand that I am a connected human being and not on my own in this beautiful world that I live in, then the universe conspires to bring me joy, lightness, happiness and alignment. In a feeling of trust, I don’t have to grip to people or things, I don’t have to control anything, I can simply let go and trust that with letting go, my life will start shifting to the better.

If it’s aligned, it’ll stay.

When I’m feeling aligned, I talk about a feeling of greatness & inspiration. I feel strong and energised. In a state of alignment I trust that everything will come to me when the time is right and when I’m ready to receive it. When feeling aligned, I feel the power within me that I am the creator of my dreams and my dream life.

You are the creator of your dream life.

I feel so blessed that as a result of my alignment and faith, I published my first eBook ‘Feel Understand Heal #1 – Reveal your true self.’ In this eBook I help you start your inner journey to reveal your true self. I want the expression ‘Be Yourself’ to be the guideline for your life, because you can only be truly happy, when you know who you really are.

Living a life in full alignment and happiness is the commitment we, I, you should give ourselves, don’t you think so?

Yours, Nina

 

 

Loving what is

Inspired by the fabulously smart Byron Katie.

Don’t we all know that we are better off when we accept those things in our lives that we cannot change anyways?

Don’t we know that we shouldn’t put any energy into things that we don’t believe in?

Don’t we know that by judging other people we actually judge ourselves?

I guess the answer is ‘YES’ on each of these questions. Yet, we find ourselves in exactly those situations over and over again.

We get angry when a situation or a person winds us up, although IT IS.

We feel exhausted, sad or misunderstood when – often for the sake of others – we invest our time, money and efforts into things that we don’t actually believe in, leaving us frustrated, because we didn’t say no, leaving us feeling guilty when we did, leaving us unsatisfied, because we didn’t invest our time into the things that really matter to us. And yet, IT IS.

We feel hurt, when we are being judged by people. And still, IT IS.

I’ve been wondering: If it is all so clear, then why is it so damn hard to love what is? Why do we spend so much time thinking, moving everything from right to left in our head, analysing, hoping, wishing for a change (in others)?

My answer:

Because it is a process.

And according to Byron Katie: Because you have to do the work first.

Any negative or restricting emotion, be it disappointment, fear, anger or sadness, derives from somewhere within us. Not from somewhere outside of us. This is the 1st step for improvement and for getting closer to loving what it is. Because IT IS.

We won’t stop projecting certain feelings into other people or situations, unless we are aware that this is what we do. We are responsible for our life and hence our emotions, feelings and actions. It’s not the responsibility of anyone else. This is in my opinion the 2nd step towards loving what is. Because IT IS.

We will repeat what we don’t repair. So, we should really look into everything that IS. To start repairing what lies within us, to then dissolve what lies within others. Ask yourself in the entire process:

Is this the truth?

Then you will be ready to start your healing process. And this healing process will lead you to

Loving what is.

Yours, Nina

PS: I’m in the middle of the process and it is worth starting. Send me a pink note, if you want to share your thoughts or comment on the article. 

 

 

 

 

 

Yoga Teacher Training-Episode 1

As promised, I would like to share with you my experiences during my yoga teacher training (YTT), which started on Friday. I will be putting up a post for each of the 8 weekends in total, so this one is episode 1. Stay tuned, if you want to know more about my insights, ’cause maybe you are considering a training, too?

First things first, I’ve been so much looking forward to my training, meeting new people with hopefully a similar and positive mindset, and getting deeper into my yoga practice.

We started the YTT with an introduction about who we are, what we usually do (work-wise), how long we’ve been practicing yoga, which styles, if we are already teaching, if we have completed a training already, and most importantly why we are here.

Why am I here?

I decided to do the yoga teacher training to get deeper into my practice and to learn more about the yoga philosophy. Where is yoga coming from? What does it stand for in its purest form? What’s the ultimate purpose of yoga? Another reason for me was to go on an even deeper spiritual journey in a safe environment with the wish to solve some topics for myself, too. Topics where I feel stuck, and that manifest themselves in my mind & body.

After the introduction, we went straight into the asana practice with Nella. We started with standing poses such as Tadasana, Utthita Hatasana, Uttanasana and Utkatasana. Writing this is a great way to learn the Sanskrit names. With each of the asanas, we clarified what the positive effects are on the body and most importantly how your alignment should be in the asana to avoid misalignment and injury. We followed the same process for Adho Mukha Svanasana (downward facing dog). The teachers and assistants would then normally pick about 3 people from the group to show common challenges and risks in each asana. These will then be discussed and corrected. We also learned modifications and which tools (such as blocks, belt etc.) to use when necessary. After a few hours of valuable yoga practice, we finished the practice with a relaxing and reviving Yoga Nidra session. Gosh, how I love this! I’m heading home smiley and happy and ready to sleep.

Conclusion: The first day was a full success. We are a nice bunch of people, all different, and yet with one thing that connects us all… yoga.

Day 2 starts at 9.00am with a meditation and continues with a beautiful yoga practice of approximately 2.5 hours. I can definitely say that I’ve not felt my muscles like this before. Each asana is complex on its own, even Tadasana is challenging if you really make all the changes in your body. I must say I already love this feeling of feeling my entire body, all my muscles and my mental presence so much.

Then we get to hands-on assists. Assists are so valuable, if received by an experienced teacher. The corrections do not only go into your head, but into your body and mind. If you just let go, you can feel the changes and it feels amazing. It’s this Aha moment.

Pretty soon thereafter we go together in groups of 3 and teach our own class consisting of 3 asanas, including verbal corrections and assists. I start in our group and I really do enjoy it. Yes, I forgot to mention all the relevant points in each asana, but hey this is what we are here for. Most importantly, I keep thinking, yes I love this! We finish the day with a 15 minute Savasana, where I receive an absolutely wonderful neck and shoulder massage from one of our assistants. I leave the yoga studio at 5pm feeling fulfilled.

Conclusion: The 2nd day provided so much input already and I cannot wait to make use of it all in my own yoga practice.

Day 3 is our spiritual philosophy day with Ralph. I’ve been really looking forward to this part too, because as you know I like personal development, I love yoga and I love the spiritual journey we are all on, consciously or not. Actually writing this article makes me realise how complex and yet simple this topic is. But I’m struggling to summarise the day at this stage. We spoke about where the term yoga stems from, what yoga actually means (it means self-fulfilment), we spoke about immortality, but how we all need to die one day. Most importantly though we realised that we have one more thing in common, in addition to practicing yoga. We are all on the search for our purpose of existence. Some want to know more, some less, but at the end of the day, we are all trying to find our place in life, on earth.

Conclusion: This YTT is one of the best decisions I’ve made so far. A heart decision, that I’m sure will open up new spaces physically, mentally and emotionally.

Yours, Nina