Be grateful

Being amongst positive people provides energy and a positive attitude to life. It is definitely worth taking some time out, even if only 5 minutes, to think about someone who we like and who enriches our life. Be grateful for having that person in your life.

We can apply the practice of gratitude for people to certain things and situations in our lives. We can be grateful for everything. For our health. For our family. For our friends. For sunshine. For rain. For being able to get out of bed every morning. For being in love. For having a good amount of money. For having a good standard of living. For our 5 senses. For time spent with our loved ones. For a good chat with someone.

What are you grateful for?

Being grateful is so powerful, because it leads you the way to happiness. It is a small change you can make in your life today with massive impact. By focusing on the positives in our life, we automatically focus less on the negatives in our life. We can really achieve a shift in our thoughts by practicing gratitude. And positive thoughts lead to positive feelings. These lead to positive actions and finally to positive results.

Of course there are days for everyone of us, when we feel like everyone is against us, nothing seems to work, when we are sad or tired. Whilst it is essential to feel these feelings too, it is even more critical to quickly observe them, but then to move on to the positives in our lives. Just think about it, do you feel good when you are feeling low and you keep going on about the negatives? No. Isn’t it nicer to focus on the positives and things that are already working amazingly well in your life? Yes.

This does not mean that you shouldn’t deal with a subject that is causing trouble in your life and that you should just ignore it. However, the way to happiness here is to notice the challenge, yet to move into problem-solving mode as quickly as possible and not to get stuck in a downwards spiral. Don’t moan too much, but if you do find yourself moaning, exhort yourself to stop and shift your focus from the negatives to the positives.

I like speaking the positives out loud (to myself and others) and I like writing them down into my pink notebook, too. Basically like a gratitude journal. If you do so, ensure you have something really pretty, something you love to write into.

We all get so caught up in our lives that we start believing that our (small) problems are big. But there are most likely a minimum of 3 things that we can all be grateful for every day, if we just try. Be grateful and your mindset will change. The vibes you send out and receive will gradually be more positive. Then, finally your life will become more beautiful, as you surround yourself with positive vibes, you live positive vibes, you are positive vibes.

Allow yourself to let go of everything that doesn’t serve you any longer, everything that is bringing you down. Breathe out negativity and breathe in positivity.

Yours, Nina

 

Be here, be now

Simply said, difficult to execute. And yet, these words are the truth to walk the way to happiness.

When I was in Tulum last year and participated in a yoga retreat, one of the daily morning routines at 7.30am was meditation. At that point in my life, I’ve of course heard about meditation, but apart from ‘sitting still’ in my yoga classes, I never meditated. I write ‘sitting still’ in quotation marks on purpose, because this was what mediation meant to me up until that day.

The first meditation during the yoga retreat was not easy at all for me. My thoughts were wandering, to the past, to the future, to the breath of other people in the room, basically everything, but me. I felt restless, not able to sit still, and I couldn’t focus. My mind was controlling this meditation fully and taking me everywhere, but the here and now.

Only when I started focusing on my breath and breathed in and out louder, I experienced a bit of silence arising from within.

If you are struggling with being silent, too, then I can recommend you to start meditating on a daily basis. Start with 3-5 minutes only, then increase the length to 10 minutes, then 15 minutes and then meditate as long as you want to. Find a comfortable seat, crossing your legs or sitting on your heels. The beginners amongst you may want to try lying down to start with. I find it easier to be silent when lying down, as it’s more comfy, but obviously with practice you can sit up.

Once you meditate, just observe what comes up for you, do not comment or assess, just notice. Let your thoughts come and go like clouds, thank them for being there to protect you, but then kindly tell them good-bye. At least, for that moment. For the time-being. This way, you’ll be able to experience presence, being in the here and now. Gradually. Do not worry, all good things take time, so take your time to become silent, take your time to be fully present.

To support this process, I also like journalling after the meditation – writing all my feelings & thoughts down into my pink notebook. I feel like bringing everything down to paper is such a relief and it helps me to let go of these thoughts even quicker next time I meditate.┬áJournalling helps me a lot to relive my feelings and thoughts and to move them from the unconscious to the conscious. Always remember that we can only ever change feelings, thoughts, situations, etc. that we’ve become conscious of. Every feeling in the unconscious remains hidden and it becomes more and more difficult to reveal the longer we leave our feelings in the unconscious.

I promise the moment you become conscious of yourself, your feelings and behaviours, it might be just a bit of a shock and maybe it hurts a tiny bit, but then you’ll feel relieved, free and ready to be in the here and now, the way to happiness.

Yours, Nina