How meditation improved my relationships & more.

In all friendships, in all relationships I have, (check previous posts @designyourlifeforresults to learn more) I have understood that these only exist, because there is a true, genuine and deep connection I have with the people I surround myself with.
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This deep connection exists, because I have connected deeply with myself. Over the last 5 years and continuously every single day. One of my favourite tools? Meditation. Everyday, everywhere.
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If you are brave enough to do so, i.e. to look deeper into who you are, what you desire and where you are heading, it makes building & maintaining connections so much easier, worthwhile, fun and loving.
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I honestly cannot be bothered anymore to entertain superficial connections and relationships. It is my lifetime, so now I only surround myself with positive, loving and growing people that have a vision and mission to rise up to.
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This is certainly only ONE RESULT I got out from my daily meditation practice.

Tell me, are you meditating regularly?

If you do, what is your Top 1 result? If not, what keeps you from getting started? In my opinion, there is nothing to lose, only a lot to win.

Love, yours Nina ❣️
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PS: Want to get started on your meditation practice and need guidance? Looking to surround yourself with like-minded souls? I invite you to join my Facebook group ‘DIVE DEEP – Design your life for results’ with weekly activities, currently on Sundays. There was a Facebook Live this evening and I spoke in detail about my experience with meditation,  how I got started, how to set yourself up and which essential oil I use and how for my meditation. It is powerful for you to get you results, so come, like & follow my page: https://www.facebook.com/designyourlifeforresults/ . It is all for free, too.

You must? Really?

My beautiful followers, I have been a bit absent here and I do apologise. As we all do, I had to get my head around a few things and so I had a bit of a reset phase. Triggered by a crazy doing phase, I noticed the importance of resetting and resting versus working and being productivity more than ever before.

I must

And now here I am with a topic that I’ve seen with me and I keep seeing with people I meet in my life, be it connections whilst traveling, my friends and family and also my clients. It is the phrase “I must” that we use a lot without even questioning it. Without even reflecting on the deeper meaning of that little, yet so powerful phrase.

The mental prison

With every “I must” I personally feel like putting myself into a prison and I cannot even blame a person other than me. Every time I say “I must”, I limit myself, I restrict myself, I block myself, I get stuck. I mean who wants to feel stuck? Exactly, so how about you get unstuck?

Do you feel like this is a difficult one? Well, I of course am honest with you and yes this is a process. Considering that we grow up with that mind pattern “I have to” “I must” “I can’t”, it is not necessarily an easy task to turn this mind pattern around, but I know it is possible. Because I have done it or lets say I am also in the process. I have increased my awareness a lot about what I say and the way I speak with myself. So, let me talk about a solution of finding your way out of your mental prison and into ease.

The solution

  1. Awareness: Notice when you say “I must”. Be aware of when you use it and how often you use it.
  2. Observation: See how it makes you feel when you say these two words “I must”.
  3. Reflection: Ask yourself where this is coming from. Who says “I must”? Is it coming from you, from another person or society?
  4. Replace: Now try saying the same sentence again replacing “I must” with “I want”.
  5. Observation: See how it makes you feel when you say these two words “I want”.
  6. Consciousness: Be fully conscious of what you say to yourself, how you speak with yourself and every time you say “I must”, gently replace it with “I want”.
  7. Results: This little exercise will give you results for sure, if you keep practicing consciousness around your musts and wants.

Results

Be replacing the musts with your wants, you’ll gain awareness and clarity about your wants in life, you will free yourself up for the things you really want to do and overall you’ll feel better.

Now, go off and enjoy your life.

Love, yours Nina

PS: If you want to live a more joyful life and attain a greater health in all areas of your life, please feel free to reach out to me. In a complimentary “Get to know you” call, we will find out together how to best get you into your joyful life. Design your life for results, do not live it by default!

PPS: Please follow me on Instagram as well, where I share loads of life designing content.

 

 

Design your life for results

This article is inspired by my interview in Business Booster Today where I explain how my story supports you to finally break free and design your life for results. 

Direct link to article: https://www.businessboostertoday.com/design-your-life-for-results/


Reflection: I am using these last days of the year to really reflect my year 2018. I am asking myself the following questions: What went really well? What could I have done better? Is there anything or anyone that I need to forgive? What were my success stories in 2018? Where did I grow? What didn’t go as planned?

Now it is your turn! Sit down now with a nice pen and notebook and write this down for yourself. Take your time, make yourself comfortable and reflect. Go through every month January 2018 to December 2018 and reflect the good and the not so good things in all areas of your life.

Reason: Reflection and bringing unconscious things to your consciousness is key for your change. If you truly want to design your life the way you want to live it, then this is the way in. You gotta reflect in order to become aware, in order to become more and more the person you are meant to be.

Result: Charged awareness. A lighter feeling as you release ballast you no longer need. Take control of your life, instead of just reacting. Design your life proactively – it is yours!

Visualisation: I also make time to set my goals for 2019 and to visualise these goals. What do I want to achieve in each area of my life, e.g. health & fitness, my job, relationship etc.? What person do I want to become? Which quality of life do I want to have? How do I want to design my 2019? Is there anything that is keeping me from doing so? If so, why and what is my fear around this? Is it really keeping me from doing so or am I just looking for excuses? Once I have set my goals, I sit down on my meditation cushion and I visualise these goals. If you can imagine it, you can have it. You want to be in a relationship? Visualise it in detail. Where are you with your partner? How do you behave around each other? Do you want to have this specific job/flat etc.?

Now it is your turn! Sit down and write everything down unfiltered, let your ideas and visions flow. Then visualise your goals in detail. Do one after the other. Take your time.

Reason: Setting goals and the matching visualisation make things that feel far away and hence unreal real. They become more tangible and less abstract. Visualising makes you smile, because it provides you with a good feeling, that trust that you can achieve the things you are visualising. Hold this space for yourself and you’ll see.

Result: Charged awareness of your dreams that become goals through this process and eventually your reality. By writing down your goals and visualising them you’ll give a signal to the universe that you are ready to go for it. That you are ready to design your life for the results that you want to see in your life.

Let me ask you: Are you ready to charge your awareness? Are you ready to become more of who you want to be? Are you ready to take control of your life? Are you ready to break free from any compulsions that are still holding you back? Are you ready to design your life? Ready to see the amazing results that come with it?

Boom. Let’s go together, because together we can fly.

Yours, Nina


I would love to connect with you. Why don’t you just look at my website: http://www.designyourlifeforresults.com/

And reach out to me on Social Media on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube.

Move your body into flow state!

Dear all,

as most of you will know, movement is one of the most important aspects in my life. Not only because it simply makes me feel better, but also because it is essential to our overall health and wellbeing.

And I talk health on a holistic level, meaning you want to be healthy physically, mentally and emotionally.

Watch this video on YouTube, how I am able to move my body into flow state and how you can do that, too and what benefits you’ll be reaping. Enjoy watching!

Yours, Nina

Date with Brooke Shields

In the week of 5th November I attended JT Foxx’s Mega Success event in Anaheim, Los Angeles with 2,500 people from all around the world, eager to learn, keen to grow, ready to design their life for the results they want to see. Because let me remind you, the life that you live, it’s your life and everything you do or you don’t it’s your decision. And as I’m learning and learning, growing every day, I have understood, deciding eliminates fear.

When we decide, we can move forward; when we don’t decide, we get stuck, we overthink, we might fear the next step because of our overactive mind. Then we often get frustrated over various things, having overthought a situation, having been too fearful of the next step, yet then we regret not to have done something. We always regret the things we haven’t done, so think twice next time.

  • Do you say yes or no to an opportunity?
  • Do you decide or let fear win?

Deciding eliminates fear.

I keep taking action, I keep making decisions every single day and you should, too. I don’t talk about all the tiny decisions we have to take every day, no I mean the decisions that could be life-changing for you, the decisions that can get you started on living the life you truly want, the decision FOR YOU.

Decide for you.

It is so worth it, trust me. After all, my actions and my decisions led me to the absolutely amazing opportunity to meet Brooke Shields (actress, model, entrepreneur) in Los Angeles. Not only did I meet her, but also I was up on stage in front of 2,500 successful, international entrepreneurs to have a fantastic conversation with her about success when it comes to health and wellbeing.

After my interview with this beautiful woman inside out, I recorded a video for you because I wanted you to feel the energy that I got from that interview, from that moment up on stage, a pure state of happiness. Here’s the link to my video recorded live in LA straight after the interview with Brooke Shields.

When I was a child, I always wanted to become an actress, moderator, travel reporter or a dancer; all things active and agile, travelling, exploring. I knew I wanted to be free like a bird, I also already knew I wanted to do my own thing, but most importantly I wanted to be happy. What I find most interesting is that all of my childhood dreams have one thing in common and that is serving and helping others.

The beautiful thing is – although I might not be an actress or reporter – this is exactly what I do as Life & Business Strategist. I have worked on myself to become a better, mentally healthier and consequently happier person. And now I get to help people connecting with themselves, revealing their true self and designing the life that they truly want to live. And this makes me happy from within and I know it will make you happy, too, when you are ready to take action and walk that path of happiness.

  • Are you ready to work on your body, mind and soul?
  • Are you ready to actively design your life?
  • Are you ready to go after the results you deserve?

Then click here to learn more.

Lots of love, yours Nina

PS: Ensure you connect with me on Instagram & Facebook on ‘ninaspinknotes’. And you can watch all my videos from LA on YouTube. Enjoy! 

 

 

Arise to success

When you follow me on social media, you’ll know that I spent almost two weeks in the USA. I traveled there for the business event of the year, Mega Success by JT Foxx. Afterwards I traveled to Chicago to explore a new city, and I loved it. Hence I do apologise for the missing blog post last Friday, however I hope you were catching up with me on Facebook and Instagram.

As a wise person said to me more than once ‘There’s room at the top. It’s the bottom that is crowded.’ (JT Foxx)

On that note let me encourage you to arise to your success. I have learned over the past years that my definition of success has changed. This is only natural, since we all grow and change every day, some faster, some slower. What I have also learned is:

Success is an inside job.

Success arises from within plus by you taking the necessary steps continuously. This is called self-responsibiity, no excuses, no reactions, only actions.  You can manifest your dreams the entire day, however if you don’t take action towards your dreams, they will be gone in no time.

Manifestation + Action = Success

You have the power to design your life for the results you want to see.

  • Want to feel your body? You can have it.
  • Want to train your mind to be positive? You can have it.
  • Want to feel holistically aligned? You can have it.

Design your life for the results that you want to see. What does success mean to you?

I have noticed over the past years that my definition of success has changed. That authenticity, honesty and loyalty are the most important values for me in my life when it comes to success. Having that in mind, I can do everything I set my mind to, because deep down I am myself, I am my authentic me. Success also means to me that I am becoming a better version of myself every single day. By meditating, by reading a book, by listening to audios and podcasts, but most importantly by actively listening to my inner voice and permitting me to let this voice speak to myself and others.

Because what happens if I don’t voice my voice? Well, energies might get stuck in my body or I feel like I’m not expressing myself, my feelings and what I have to say. However, expressing myself and speaking my truth is a really important life factor to succeed and be happy all around.

Let me again encourage you to speak your truth, to express your feelings and to be truly who you are meant to be. Then you can arise to success and you’ll be ready for it. I know it.

Yours, Nina

PS: The jet lag is heavily kicking in, so I will head to bed. This is a slightly shorter post than normally. Have yourself a wonderful weekend. 

Release your energy

Today, I captured my thoughts in a video which you also find on my YouTube channel.

Watch this video here.

It’s all about self-love, tuning into your body, observing your thoughts, connecting with yourself and diving deeper to who you really are. Release energy to have space for all new and beautiful things to come into your life!

By coming closer to who you really are, you will be able to activate your full potential and to design the life that you are destined to live.

Life is beautiful.

Yours, Nina

 

Oh Cambodia!

I’m so grateful!

  • … for travelling.
  • … to have visited Cambodia.
  • … to have stayed in a yoga & meditation temple.
  • … that I found yoga & meditation for my life.
  • … that I meet beautiful people wherever I go.

Meeting new people is such a wonderful experience. When I travelled through Cambodia, I enjoyed this experience every single day. I stayed in a yoga & meditation retreat in Kep for 2 weeks. Check out Vagabond Temple, if you are looking for spiritual inspiration & growth, great yoga classes, guidance in meditation and meeting like-minded people from all over the world.

I also booked an Ayurveda detoxification package with sessions spread over 5 days, so you should be a guest for a minimum of 5 days. The package included 4 wonderful Ayurvedic massages plus a session with the founder of the retreat Kobi. My healer Maayan and me started with feet reflexology and seriously this woman has magical hands. I noticed fairly quickly how tight certain parts in my feet were, ouch!, but it all made sense, since these points related to my lower back and hamstrings and yes, they were tight. This session was incredible. Whilst I thought that Maayan was still massaging my feet, she suddenly stood next to me informing me that the massage was finished. What?! This showed me how deeply relaxed I was. For the afternoon she recommended to just be and relax and to take the afternoon yoga practice slow.

More being, less doing.

This is something so valuable I learned during my time at the retreat center. Not only Maayan mentioned this to me specifically to rest more, but also Pazit held an incredible Dharma talk about the topic More being, less doing. Why? Because most of us are so caught up with daily To Do lists, tasks & self-imposed responsibilities, social media and overall distraction, that we forget to simply be. Without looking at our smart phone. Without doing anything. Just being.

Just sit and be still.

Another aha-moment for me was when I visited Maayan the 2nd time for a full body Ayurvedic massage. She hugged me tightly and from her heart and asked me how I was doing. I replied: “Actually good.” She asked: “Actually?” Me: “Hm, no I’m really good.” This situation showed me that I was relativising my mood, although I felt awesome, freaking great, amazing. And so we started reflecting on this conversation and our impulse to relativise things. I instantly noticed for myself that I get the impression it’s more accepted in society to hold back, to be not that great, to moan. But if you say you are doing really great, then you are kind of weird. Different. Maybe arrogant. So, maybe that’s why we make ourselves worse, because we might also get more attention if we say “I’m okay.” Followed by the next question “Why, what’s going on?” as opposed to no question, when you say you are doing great. Well, at least that is my observation, as the entire blog is, just as a reminder.

We continued with a full body massage and again/still, my hip area was tight. I fully relaxed and even saw bright white and yellow lights. Maayan explained that the tightness probably comes from my will to push forward. Because I’m doing too much and being too little. She assured me that I’m still young and that I still have enough time to get to where I want to be. That it’s important to accept that life throws us back at times or makes us go left and right, but that we can continue our path anyways. Accept what is. Accept the throwbacks, meander and changes in life.

You will continue your path.

This inspiring conversation took me straight to my pink notebook wondering where the urge to do comes from. Am I afraid of dying before having fully lived the life that I always wanted to live? Do I do, because I want to live my dream life as quickly as possible, for as long as possible? Am I scared of regretting not to have done enough?

If you are following my blog since the start then you will know that I had my breakthrough in a Reiki session in Mexico, whilst travelling through Latin America for almost 6 months. And so it happened that Maayan and me included a Reiki session into my package. I would love to share with you my main learnings from this session.

  • Follow up on what you see in your dreams.
  • Follow your path.
  • Take care of yourself. Self-love first.
  • Do not absorb negative energies.
  • Go for it.

Go for it!

The last part of the Ayurveda package was with Kobi. After a few minutes of talking, we found ourselves in a very exciting talk about astrology and my sign (=Gemini). Kobi is an absolute expert in this field, so if you are into it and you visit Cambodia, schedule an appointment with him now. Again, details of this conversation would go beyond the scope of this blog post, but let me share with you my learnings which I’m sure will be so valuable for you, too, as these are independent from your astrological sign.

  • Letting someone read my astrological sign made me understand myself more, it gave me more empathy for me, my behaviours and my decisions.
  • Do not compromise on yourself. You are who you are.
  • Set your boundaries. Write down your red lines in the different areas of life.
  • Appreciate validation from others, but do not seek it.
  • Believe in yourself.

Believe in yourself.

Oh Cambodia! Thank you so much for having me and enriching my life so strongly and positively that I feel freer and more confident than ever before. Thank you to all of you wonderful people who accompanied me on this journey.

Love, love, love.

Yours, Nina

 

 

Big Five for Life

My success story and hence realisation of one of my Big Five for Life already started when I was 17 years old. But I didn’t know anything about the Big Five for Life, needless to say that I didn’t understand then that I was about to get closer to realise my dream.

Back in high school, one teacher offered Spanish classes as an extracurricular activity. Since starting school, I was interested in languages. I like the idea of being able to talk to other people in their local language. I already knew German and English, so I signed up for the Spanish classes, with 100% enthusiasm. Only 6 months later my teacher organised an exchange programme to the beautiful and cosy town of Linares, Jan in Andalusia. I was really happy with my host family and my exchange partner Ana, who was 3 years older than me. Jackpot at this age, since I would be hanging out with 20 year olds. The family only spoke Spanish, nothing else, so I really had to make an effort to make myself understood. The result: after only 2 weeks in Spain (plus the 6 months before), I spoke enough Spanish to get by, to order drinks and food, to ask for directions or to introduce myself.

When I returned home, I was sure to continue learning Spanish, but my dream had grown bigger. I was inspired by my teacher who spent 6 months in Argentina plus I was driven by the idea of speaking several languages.

So, my dream suddenly became clear: I want to travel through Latin America someday. I want to improve my Spanish skills and most importantly I want to feel this feeling again. My inner joy like a child, that swings back and forth, a feeling of warmth and openness, that I experienced during my exchange programme, a feeling of extensiveness and independence, and trust that

Everything is possible.

And so one of my biggest Big Five for Life was born: Travelling through Latin America. I didn’t have any idea, when or how, but it was crystal clear why and that I want to do this.

I’m fast forwarding to my time as a student of business administration. In 2005 I had the opportunity to study in Wales, which I grabbed instantly. Why? I felt this feeling again. Of course I was there to improve my English skills, but the university also offered Spanish classes, and so I signed up again, studying Spanish for another 8 months. I mean who says that I couldn’t learn two languages at the same time? Right…!

I moved to London in 2012, as my boyfriend at the time worked in finance, and because I simply wanted to. I had this feeling of travel pleasure again, the desire to experience something new. Of course, it was also my plan to find a job in London as marketing manager, but what drove me most was the desire to speak a different language, to dive into a new culture and to meet new people. It was simply exciting.

After 2 years in that job and a feeling of having settled into the job, I felt the urge to learn something (new) again. And there it was again, my thoughts about Latin America and Spanish. I asked for recommendations for Spanish schools on Facebook and one school that was recommended most was Instituto Cervantes. Said and one. I called the school, arranged an appointment for a level test, and started my classes only a few weeks later. I pushed through all classes, once a week, every Monday, after work, even in summer.

In 2014, my boyfriend and me broke up, but since I was happy in London with my job, my friends and everything else, I simply wasn’t ready to close this chapter. So I stayed, against the exceptions of family and friends.

Do you know this feeling, when you know? When you intuitively know what is right for you? I felt exactly this feeling. I simply knew that my journey wasn’t over. Not here, not now.

Trust your intuition.

In June 2015 I got together with my new boyfriend from London, who was my colleague at the same time. Only a few months later, we were told that our company would be sold to a German company. I saw a big potential for my career at this company, since I was the only one speaking German and English fluently and understanding both cultures. However, during the acquisition, I realised that I didn’t want to continue working for this company. And still, my thoughts were going in circles for weeks, what to do next, back and forth. But suddenly there it was. Clarity. About quitting. Moreover, I was 100% sure that this would be the moment. I long had this dream to travel through Latin America, but still there were always reasons against it (in my head), why this wouldn’t be possible, for example due to a relationship, a job, not enough money, not enough time etc. But in this moment there weren’t any obstacles any more. Not even my relationship at the time was an obstacle for me. I took my boyfriend aside and talked him through my dream of travelling through Latin America and that the timing just seemed perfect. I told him that I swore myself that next time I’d quit a job, I would go on this journey. And he liked the idea.So we both quit our safe and well-paid jobs in London in February 2016.

Our research started. Which countries, how long, when to start, which Spanish school.

I just couldn’t believe that my dream of travelling through Latin America would finally (at the age of 34) become true, yet at the same time it felt so natural, as if was meant to be. I was so much looking forward to this journey and my travels kicked off on the 5th June 2016. Me, Nina, with my 15kg backpack, on her way to the first stop, Havana in Cuba. The return flight was planned for the 26th September, so we had just under 4 months of travelling and adventure ahead of us. The adventure came, but differently.

We travelled from Cuba to Guatemala, where we stayed for 2 weeks in Antigua in a Spanish school. We continued to Nicaragua and Costa Rica. I really wanted to go to Mexico, but my boyfriend wasn’t so keen on it, and since it was more a feeling than anything else, I couldn’t really argue why I wanted to go. We then travelled to Colombia, to Ecuador, and here we visited a Spanish school again in Montañita, a surf town, where we spent 2 weeks in a hotel right at the beach. Next stop was Peru and on the peak point of this country, Machu Picchu, our relationship also arrived at a peak named end.

We still travelled to Bolivia together, but it was clear that we couldn’t make this work, regarding our communication, our wishes as well as our idea of relationship and partnership. Nevertheless, the end came kind of as a surprise to me and it therefore hurt and it was an end full of tears. But in all this emotional drama, I knew, I had to leave this place asap in order to create space, to have air to breathe. So, 2 days later (mid-August) I was on a plane to Uyuni, to see the biggest salt flats of the world. And to feel this feeling again. My Why.

Whilst approximately 95% of friends and family suggested to come back home (but what was that home, London or Munich?) I felt deep inside me, that my journey was not over yet. That this journey would continue. That it had only just started. And so it was.

What is it that YOU want?

The adventure was bigger and better than I could have ever imagined. In the following days I decided to continue my travels as originally planned, but solo. It was my dream, one of my Big Five for Life, remember? I simply couldn’t stand the idea that a break up should erase this dream. No Way! It simply didn’t feel right to stop my travels, actually I felt the opposite. I suddenly had this deep trust, despite the heartache, that everything was happening for a reason and that it was right and important for me to make this experience. For me, my journey and my path of life.

Trust your intuition.

So, I decided to continue my travels on my own. In my pace, and with a feeling of floating, to simply live into the day. And my journey began and with it the fulfilment of one of my Big Five for Life.

From Bolivia, I flew to Chile and spent two wonderful weeks in Santiago de Chile. Due to the emotional chaos that I was in, I had somehow forgotten that my return flight to London was in 2 weeks already. And there it was again, the dilemma, that we all know.

Heart says, head says.

My heart spoke clearly, but softly to me to extend the journey, but my head, also shaped by the opinion of others, requested to fly back to London on 26th September, as it had all been planned.

My heart won! I was getting warm. I called the travel office and asked for flight options  to somewhere nice and warm, with sun, sand and sea. I just knew what I needed for my heart, my soul and a relaxed finale of my journey. Guess what I booked? Mexico. Yes!

But first things first, because from Chile I first travelled to Argentina. Since I had extended my trip for another 7 weeks, I took my time to explore this beautiful country a bit more. I met a nice woman in Buenos Aires who invited me into her casa in La Rioja.

And I felt this feeling again: warmth, openness, and freedom. When I spotted a swing in a giant garden, I was so happy and I started swinging like a child. Playful and content.

I spent my last 4 weeks in Mexico. Mexico and especially Tulum has become my magic place. A place of reflection, of inner peace, of sheer pleasure and the journey to myself. It was most likely the most important journey in my life. An experience I would have never made, if I had given up on my dream of travelling through Latin America.

And in the last weeks I gained even more clarity whilst sitting at the beach of Tulum: I move back into my hometown Munich. I want to deepen my yoga and meditation practice. And I will finally write a blog, inspired by my (inner) journey.

And these visions became reality. I live in a beautiful flat in Munich, I’m doing my yoga teacher training and I launched my blog, this blog. My heart project. The name Nina’s Pink Notes is based on a pink notebook that was my loyal companion during my travels.

Today, I’m very grateful for my experiences, because they showed me how important it is to trust myself, my heart and my inner voice. My experiences made me stronger, wiser and brought me on a more beautiful and authentic way.

If you are currently in a situation and you don’t know what to do or decide, let me tell you one thing. Really trust your intuition and follow your heart!

Yours, Nina