Who loves, dances.

What comes to your mind when you hear the word love? Let me guess, probably words like ‘relationship, partner, man, woman’? Isn’t that interesting that the majority of us associates the word love with something extrinsic, something external, something outside of us, something that we give to someone and that we receive by someone else?

Love is intrinsic

Love is something intrinsic to you, to me, to all of us. It’s nothing outside of us, love is inside us. It’s called self-love. Love is simply there, it is what we were born with, with love from the inside out. Isn’t it beautiful? So, the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. If you hear love, and you think about the relationship with yourself, then that’s great. This is what should come to our mind, when we hear the word love. It is a process though, as we’ve been raised thinking we first need to do and to accomplish something before we are fully loved and before we can then love ourselves.

But NO! I want you to know that you are beautiful just the way you are, you are loved, just for being yourself, and it is our natural human potential to love ourselves.

When you fully love yourself, only then can you show true and deep love to someone else. Only then can you experience & receive love fully. So, fill up your love tank. It is already inside you. The good news is that you can grow love inside you and that there aren’t any bad news associated with it.

Grow love inside you

Here is some guidance on how to do that. Please note awareness is key.

  • Live in the present moment as much as possible. Do not overthink the past or the future, but focus on the now.
  • Practice more being, less doing.
  • Watch yourself. Say STOP to negative thoughts, once you notice them and before a whole story arises with it. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts instead.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself, meaning do not fight your body, mind and spirit. Instead take care of your body, watch your thoughts and feel your present emotions, no matter if it is sadness, anger or jealousy. Do not fight it, accept what is, love what is.
  • Be creative and enjoy the process of creating. Whatever it may be. For me it’s for example creating a yoga class or a workshop. For me being creative also means dancing, following my feelings with my body and to express myself whilst dancing.
  • Live your life according to your true self.
  • Be authentic, be yourself, be happy.

What is your creative passion that only waits to be released?

Over the past years, I have developed a strong sense for myself, for my whole being. I have improved access to my intuition and I’ve sharpened my listening and ‘reading between the lines’ skills. I have more love and understanding for myself than ever. I live in line with my true self as best as I can, every single day. When my love tank is full, I can draw from it at any given moment, for myself and others!

Don’t be too hard on yourself

And yet, I also have days when the above doesn’t really work, when I feel stuck in the past or in the future, when I’m busy doing stuff, when I don’t feel well-aligned, when I feel distracted, sad or angry. But you know what? I do notice and being aware is the most important step for change and creation. Moreover, I’ve learned not to be too hard on myself anymore. It simply doesn’t help, instead it slows down the process even more. So, love yourself! Practice self-love! Be kind to yourself!

Who loves, dances

Oh yes! When you understand that love is within you always, once you’ve filled up your love tank and when you are kind to yourself always, then you will just feel so full of love that your heart will have no other chance but dance!

In my case, I literally mean dancing. I love dancing to express myself. Whilst dancing, I’m in my highest alignment. I’m always dancing, inside out!

When do you start ‘dancing’?

Much love.

Yours, Nina

 

 

 

 

Be here, be now

Simply said, difficult to execute. And yet, these words are the truth to walk the way to happiness.

When I was in Tulum last year and participated in a yoga retreat, one of the daily morning routines at 7.30am was meditation. At that point in my life, I’ve of course heard about meditation, but apart from ‘sitting still’ in my yoga classes, I never meditated. I write ‘sitting still’ in quotation marks on purpose, because this was what mediation meant to me up until that day.

The first meditation during the yoga retreat was not easy at all for me. My thoughts were wandering, to the past, to the future, to the breath of other people in the room, basically everything, but me. I felt restless, not able to sit still, and I couldn’t focus. My mind was controlling this meditation fully and taking me everywhere, but the here and now.

Only when I started focusing on my breath and breathed in and out louder, I experienced a bit of silence arising from within.

If you are struggling with being silent, too, then I can recommend you to start meditating on a daily basis. Start with 3-5 minutes only, then increase the length to 10 minutes, then 15 minutes and then meditate as long as you want to. Find a comfortable seat, crossing your legs or sitting on your heels. The beginners amongst you may want to try lying down to start with. I find it easier to be silent when lying down, as it’s more comfy, but obviously with practice you can sit up.

Once you meditate, just observe what comes up for you, do not comment or assess, just notice. Let your thoughts come and go like clouds, thank them for being there to protect you, but then kindly tell them good-bye. At least, for that moment. For the time-being. This way, you’ll be able to experience presence, being in the here and now. Gradually. Do not worry, all good things take time, so take your time to become silent, take your time to be fully present.

To support this process, I also like journalling after the meditation – writing all my feelings & thoughts down into my pink notebook. I feel like bringing everything down to paper is such a relief and it helps me to let go of these thoughts even quicker next time I meditate.┬áJournalling helps me a lot to relive my feelings and thoughts and to move them from the unconscious to the conscious. Always remember that we can only ever change feelings, thoughts, situations, etc. that we’ve become conscious of. Every feeling in the unconscious remains hidden and it becomes more and more difficult to reveal the longer we leave our feelings in the unconscious.

I promise the moment you become conscious of yourself, your feelings and behaviours, it might be just a bit of a shock and maybe it hurts a tiny bit, but then you’ll feel relieved, free and ready to be in the here and now, the way to happiness.

Yours, Nina