As you know, my articles are always based on my own life and experiences. Lately I’ve been wondering where our urge comes from to define things.
I am in a phase of my life, where I am ‘redefining’ things and so I couldn’t help but notice that most of us have an urge to define things, to fix things, to determine things. We define our lives by defining the world we live in. And I have a feeling we do that in all systems of our life. Be it the job, the living situation, friendships and especially relationships. Everything is defined. But why?
We rate by stating.
We automatically rate our environment based on our perception of the world and whatever we perceive we instantly want to state.
I have to say that based on my personal development and becoming more conscious of my behavioural patterns, I definitely had a tendency, a strong one haha, to define things, too. And it’s okay. However, now, I’m realising stronger than ever just how much I have actually missed out on by defining things in advance and before they even get a chance to develop. Into whatever.
It has all been part of my beautiful learning process. No regrets.
And that is my point. Why do you need to know in advance which direction things are heading to? Why do you need to know today if the job that is okay for now is the job forever? Why do you need to know if the flat or house you live in will be your place of living for the next years? Why do you need to know if the guy you’re dating at the moment is the partner for the rest of your live?
Just think about it: Whenever you are in the process of defining things, you are actually not living in the now. Your thoughts have already wandered ahead of the life you are living now. You are losing touch with being here and now. You are losing touch with this beautiful moment. You are losing touch with enjoying that specific moment or stage in your life, because you are already thinking ahead, you already want to define things.
I have understood that defining things is only a form of control that stems from fear.
Enjoying life is a form of flow that stems from love.
Love for the moment.
All I want to do with this article is to inspire you to let go of definitions, to let go of control so that you, too, can be in flow.